In response to recent political events one of our members, a mother of a younger trans student, shares the following personal message.
“This bathroom thing.
For most of my friends, I know you understand. Here's the thing:
Trans girls go to extreme lengths to make sure no one sees any private parts because they don't want to feel different from all the other girls. Same goes for trans boys. Forcing them to use a separate bathroom makes them feel like they're so different/wrong/shunned that they have to be separated from all the other kids, and it's a daily reminder to them and their peers that they're different, and different in a bad way.
It also hurts the friends of these kids, who have no problem accepting their friend as one of the girls/boys and don't understand why adults are segregating them. (It's almost always the adults, not the kids, who have a problem with trans equality.)
As for locker rooms, same deal. Most kids these days go to great lengths to not reveal anything when changing (ask your kids who are changing for gym in middle school). Stop sexualizing trans kids. They're not in the bathrooms or locker rooms looking to ogle bodies. (And some trans girls will be growing their own bona fide breasts and will be able to breastfeed if they choose, something most people don't know.) If that's what people were really afraid of, we'd be separating kids by sexual orientation, which of course is unthinkable. It's also unthinkable to force trans kids to use separate bathrooms.
They're not harming anyone. Really, they're not.
If you're an ally, please help educate those around you. It's our only way forward through all the ignorance.”